How To Build Self Confidence The Easy Way

By Wendy Jones

Have you ever felt anxious, depressed, nervous, or angry? Or feeling low on self confidence and self esteem? One of the questions I get asked a lot by my clients (and friends too) is how to build self confidence and start to feel good about life.
No matter how bad or how low you feel, if you start to use these techniques when you’re feeling low, I know you will start to feel much better and far happier than you ever thought possible. They’ll also show you how to start really achieving your goals and life long dreams at the drop of a hat.

These techniques aren’t my creation - they’re part of a powerful personal development technique known as Neuro Linguistic Programming or NLP for short. The program was created by a Master NLP practitioner who coaches with some of the biggest “blue chip” and Fortune 500 companies around today. The very simple techniques will teach you how to turn a negative and disempowering emotion into a position of strength and power.

Having the knowledge is nothing without action.

You may be familiar with the saying that “knowledge is power” - unfortunately that’s not quite true. You could read everything here, gain the knowledge but still not see any improvements in your life. That’s because “Action is Power”, not knowledge. To reap the benefits of these techniques you must put them into action. It will only take you 10 - 15 minutes a day, but they will likely be the most powerful and stimulating 15 minutes.

Let’s get started with some Magic Hats.

This process you’re about to discover is more commonly known as Magic Hats. You get 5 different colored hats (not real hats - they’re jus in your mind) and 5 very simple steps to follow. In fact there so simple you can have them down in less than 20 minutes.

Step 1 - Self Hypnosis. This is where you place yourself in a very deep state of total relaxation. Just feeling this relaxed is enough to make you feel great, but we are only just getting started.

Step 2. Modalities. Your modalities are your modes of thinking - or how your brain recalls past memories. Have you ever smelt a familiar smell and almost immediately recalled the memory of where you were and what you were doing when you first encountered that smell. Or looked at an old photo and had the memories come flooding back? We remember our past experiences through our senses - just like this.

Step 3. Swish Patterns. This is simply a method where we replace one emotion with another. So if we are experiencing a negative emotion, it’s a method we use to replace it with a positive and happy emotion.

Step 4. Anchors. When you are experiencing your new positive behaviour it’s important to “anchor” it in your memory so that you can recall it whenever you wish - literally at the drop of a hat.

Step 5. Your mode of operation. Most people allow their mind to control their emotions and simply react to all the things that happen to them each day. By being aware of how your brain and your emotions work, you can control how you react to each situation you find yourself in.

Learn to Relax on Demand

Most people hardly ever relax - even when they’re asleep, they’re still tense and under stress. Our bodies operate and function best when we are relaxed. We can think more clearly, we feel better, and are much more fun to be around. So the first and most vital lesson is learning how to fully relax - and you’ll be amazed at how easy it is.

Sit in your chair with you back straight, and your feet flat on the floor. Make sure the base of your spine is pushed right back into the back of the chair.

1. Place you hand (whichever comes naturally) onto your stomach just about where your belt buckle is (or would be if you were wearing a belt).

2. Take a deep breath in and push out your stomach muscles allowing your lungs to start expanding into your stomach area - this helps fill your lungs from the bottom allowing you to get much more air into them. Continue to inhale filling the top of your lungs as well. When you can’t breathe in anymore, hold your breath for a slow count of 6.By holding your breath, you ensure your lungs can extract the maximum amount of oxygen from the air and get it into your bloodstream.

3. Now breathe out slowly for a count of 6 and suck in your stomach muscles as far as you can at the same time. This helps expel the maximum amount of air from your lungs ready for the next deep breath in. Once you have exhaled, hold your breathe for another slow count of 6.

4. Repeat this breathing technique for a total of 6 to 12 times.

The process we are following is: Push out your stomach and breathe in - 2 - 3 - 4 - 5 - 6; Hold your breath - 2 - 3 - 4 - 5 - 6; Suck in your stomach and breathe out - 2 - 3 - 4 - 5 - 6; Hold your breath - 2 - 3 - 4 - 5 - 6; Repeat the complete process 6 - 12 times.

You may start to feel a bit dizzy or light headed while your doing this, or once you’ve finished. Don’t worry as it’s completely natural - just sit still for a few seconds and the feeling will pass. The reason is that you are now very relaxed and your blood is very well oxygenated. The light headedness is due to the increased amount of oxygen getting to your brain (which is a good thing).

Now that you’re calm and relaxed you can move on to the rest of the program - I haven’t got space to fit everything in here so there’s a free download you can get over at http://magic-hats.com with the rest of the steps. You can download it and have completed the first task within the next 10 minutes, and be on your way to a happier, more positive and much more successful life.

Author Wendy Jones is a personal development, NLP and life coach. Here she explains some personal development using some simple yet highly effective personal development techniques using the Magic Hats program from a highly respected master NLP practitioner.