Fear - A common Motivator for Self Confidence

By Abe Cherian

If you are like most people, you are often confronted with fears that hold you back - consciously or subconsciously. Although you weren't born with them, you are under the strong influence of the environment that implanted them. You might even be tempted to think that worry and fear as the primary base from which your actions stem.

Salespeople know of this powerful influence. People buy truckloads of insurance in preparation for some disaster that "might" happen. "It is better to be safe than sorry." Do you have an extra set of keys (or two) for your house or car? Do you buy food, drinks or even pills that will help you improve your complexion or lose unwanted weight?

Whether it is a fear of losing something good, or getting something bad, fear is a driving force that is always there. Why does someone behave rudely or arrogantly? Because he or she is afraid of losing their "feeling of" authoritative power, which would destroy or undermine his or her position in society.

You already know where jealousy stems from - out of fear for you, wanting or losing something you think you cannot have or the fear that someone else will get what you feel "belongs to you." New situations in life force you to confront a new set of fears. You may even comfort yourself by saying it isn't so bad. Have you ever made a doctor's appointment, a dentist appointment or a hairstyling appointment only to arrive in the respective waiting area with no pain or the best hair day you've had in a long time? Now you want to go home.

Fear is a powerful motivator. Some of the more common fears are:

1. Fear of the Unknown

2. Fear of Failure and Rejection

3. Fear of Loss (losing what you have)

4. Fear of Facing Reality

5. Fear of Disapproval

You have to deal with all of these fears if you want to succeed. You cannot deny them or banish them to your subconscious, as that will only add fuel to a fire that will probably and suddenly burst out beyond your control.

Like fires, fears are easiest to squelch when they are still small. Confront your fears and banish them forever. Start with- "The Fear of the Unknown." There isn't a person alive that isn't apprehensive, nervous or even fearful of entering new territory, wandering into the great unknown. What will it hold? How will it change you? Will you be able to handle the situation or complete the task? Will you know what to do and have the ability to do it? Will you be laughed at? Will it be worth it? One way of confronting the unknown is to recognize that without action you will never escape mediocrity.

The primary difference between people who fulfill their dreams and those that don't is action - the former move from words to action, the latter never get beyond the words. Ask yourself: What could I lose if I begin to act? Answer frankly. Typical answers are time, pride and so on. You should note that these answers are merely superficial. What could I gain? An experience that will, without a doubt, make you richer (maybe financially) and one that will bring you closer, above all, to success.

You shouldn't forget that it is self-confidence, overcoming your fears and changing your habits or undesirable attributes (like transforming yourself from timid to outgoing) that bring you a step closer to attaining your desires.

Abe Cherian is the founder of Multiple Stream Media, a company that helps online usinesses find new prospects and clients, who are anxious to grow their business fast, and without spending a fortune in marketing and automation. http://www.freehomebusinesstips.com

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5 Steps to Destroy Fear and Build Self Confidence

By Steve Peck

Recently while reading through "The Magic of Thinking Big", I found these five little steps anyone could do to gain more confidence in their life and destroy fear. It was so powerful, and yet so simple!

We all face time that more confidence would make the difference between having what you want and not having it. It may show up for you as fear, or simple lack of action. Its that thing you know you should do but are stopped for some reason.

Here are 5 Steps and Practices that will work for you -

1. Action cures fear. Isolate your fear and then take constructive action. Inaction--doing nothing about a situation strengthens fear and destroys confidence. Pick one thing you are putting off or avoiding, where you know fear has a grip and take at least one action today.

2. Make a supreme effort to put only positive thoughts in your memory bank. Don't let negative, self deprecatory thoughts grow into mental monsters. Simply refuse to recall unpleasant events or situations. Pick a positive experience from your life (search for it if you have to), one where you felt good. Stop and think about it, relive it in your mind, recall every detail….dwell in it.

3. Put people in proper perspective. Remember people are more alike, much more alike than they are different. Get a balanced view of the other fellow. He is just another human being. And develop an understanding attitude. Many people will bark but it's a rare one who bites.

4. Practice doing what your conscience tells you is right. This prevents a poisonous guilt complex from developing. Doing what's right is a very practical rule for success.

5. Make everything about you say, I'm confident really confident. Practice these little techniques in your day to day activities. Try them and see they make a difference for you.a. Be a front seater - in church, school or next meetingb. Make eye contact - look people in the eye.c. Walk 24 percent faster - you may be suprised.d. Speak up - make it a point to say something constructive or ask a question.e. Smile big - it makes a difference.

Commit to take action today and see the difference it makes in your life. We'd love your feedback - remember 5-b Speak up!

Steve Peck is a veteran network marketer with over 10 years experience building a business using the traditional methods (the old school). He is excited to share a truly online system that works. He is currently building a real online MLM business without making one phone call, holding home meetings, paying for card decks, conference calls, cold calling ... ===> http://DigitalSuccess.info Visit Steve's Blog ===> http://DigitalSuccess.org

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5 Steps to Destroy Fear and Build Self Confidence

By Steve Peck

Recently while reading through "The Magic of Thinking Big", I found these five little steps anyone could do to gain more confidence in their life and destroy fear. It was so powerful, and yet so simple!

We all face time that more confidence would make the difference between having what you want and not having it. It may show up for you as fear, or simple lack of action. Its that thing you know you should do but are stopped for some reason.

Here are 5 Steps and Practices that will work for you -

1. Action cures fear. Isolate your fear and then take constructive action. Inaction--doing nothing about a situation strengthens fear and destroys confidence. Pick one thing you are putting off or avoiding, where you know fear has a grip and take at least one action today.

2. Make a supreme effort to put only positive thoughts in your memory bank. Don't let negative, self deprecatory thoughts grow into mental monsters. Simply refuse to recall unpleasant events or situations. Pick a positive experience from your life (search for it if you have to), one where you felt good. Stop and think about it, relive it in your mind, recall every detail….dwell in it.

3. Put people in proper perspective. Remember people are more alike, much more alike than they are different. Get a balanced view of the other fellow. He is just another human being. And develop an understanding attitude. Many people will bark but it's a rare one who bites.

4. Practice doing what your conscience tells you is right. This prevents a poisonous guilt complex from developing. Doing what's right is a very practical rule for success.

5. Make everything about you say, I'm confident really confident. Practice these little techniques in your day to day activities. Try them and see they make a difference for you.

a. Be a front seater - in church, school or next meeting
b. Make eye contact - look people in the eye.
c. Walk 24 percent faster - you may be suprised.
d. Speak up - make it a point to say something constructive or ask a question.
e. Smile big - it makes a difference.

Commit to take action today and see the difference it makes in your life. We'd love your feedback - remember 5-b Speak up!

Steve Peck is a veteran network marketer with over 10 years experience building a business using the traditional methods (the old school). He is excited to share a truly online system that works. He is currently building a real online MLM business without making one phone call, holding home meetings, paying for card decks, conference calls, cold calling ... ===> http://DigitalSuccess.info Visit Steve's Blog ===> http://DigitalSuccess.org

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