How To Boost Your Self Confidence And Look, Act And Feel Stylish

By Annette C Welsford

When you feel stupid, undeserving or depressed - change your language. Saying words and phrases like "ought to", "should", "bad", "depressed", "must", "difficult" tends to disempower and does very little for your self-confidence.

I try to manage my language with positives: 'I can", "I will", "I find it challenging", "I could" gives me the power to make the decision.

I also find setting "mini goals" or achievable outcomes works well. I make them simple i.e.

ringing a cheerful positive friend (not a depressive one!)

going to the gym or taking the dog for a brisk walk

walking on the treadmill when it is raining

going to the movies and seeing new releases

finding an inexpensive belt, necklace or scarf to brighten up an old outfit and give it new life

helping one person with something - a recipe, a lift somewhere, lesson on a computer, a facial, a massage
Obviously different goals work for different people, but you get the idea.

I find achieving these goals very rewarding. It's my way of giving myself positive encouragement.

You must believe in yourself and your abilities, and when this happens the constant persistence and discipline brings about success.

Self Confidence, or the lack thereof, can be attributed to a reduced quality of life.

Things like

Unhappiness with life
Constant health problems
Stress and anxiety

Self Confidence does not come beautifully gift wrapped. We have to work on it every day.

IIt comes from the belief in yourself and acceptance of yourself and all your "blemishes". Everyone of us unique and special. Remember, we weren't born with a low self esteem. We allowed people or circumstances to make it our program. We can also change it.

Everyday try and do something for someone else. Do not focus on yourself when you meet someone for the first time, move the spotlight onto them and find out about their likes and dislikes.

In summary, BE HAPPY and SMILE.

I love the defining idea from ABRAHAM LINCOLN - "The best thing about the future is that it comes only one day at a time".

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Cheers for now.

Annette Welsford

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Self Confidence - Believe in Yourself

By John Cowell

Self confidence is critical, here's how to believe in yourself and your songwriting today with a lesson from Songwriter Hall Of Fame inductee Hugh Prestwood.

I attended a seminar where Hugh Prestwood gave a songwriting lesson and an explanation of his process of songwriting. Every songwriter is different and each has unique processes to write with.

Hugh is a very successful writer who usually takes three to four weeks to write a song. He usually doesn't co-write. Many pro songwriters write many more songs than that. Question always is how many great songs?

He described how he wrote and produced his demos in his home studio. However he also had some very interesting comments about self doubt.

He explained that often he would go through a stage in a song's development where he would doubt the song and his ability to write. He also said this is a normal part of the process.

A light went on for me! Its normal to feel self doubt about songwriting!. It was like a huge load off my mind. Here I thought it was just me that had those feelings. When I thought about it, it made me laugh. Seems pretty straight forward but I hadn't realized it.

Do you have periods where you doubt your songwriting ability and feel like its hopeless? Do you ever feel you should just admit that you're not a great writer and just get on with a normal life. Well now you can relax. It's normal and part of the process.

Hugh also said something else that rang true with me. He indicated that in addition there were times he felt like he was a hot songwriter and he would finish a song and listen to it over and over again. Just wallow in his creation.

Have you ever played your song over and over again? So many times that it's embarrassing to admit your wallowing habits to your family and friends? Guess what? I think that is normal too.

Life goes in circles, so does your songwriting and how you feel about it. Understanding that self doubt cycles occur and not getting upset about it is freeing.

Your self confidence has mood swings so don't worry about it anymore! Just try to enjoy all you can and keep writing.

John Cowell is self proclaimed songwriting addict. His fresh approach to songwriting tips and advice will have you saying "Ah-Ha" over and over again. To get simple and terrific ideas on how to write great songs visit his website http://www.greatsongwriting.com

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It's easier than you think!

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