Tips For Building Self Confidence Through Feelings And Emotions

By Lorna Luck

Your feelings affect literally everything you do in life, and everything that happens in your life - especially your self confidence levels and self esteem. You create feelings and emotions about everything that your senses pick up, and you create an immediate and automatic reaction to everything that happens to you.
When you taste something really bad, you immediately feel revulsion and try to get rid of the horrible taste as quickly as possible. When you slip on a wet or icy pavement, you immediately feel panic as you lose your footing and fear you might fall.

In everything that happens to you, your emotions and feelings immediately come into play and automatically determine how you react to each and every situation. There are several different groups of feelings and emotions, and they control us in very different ways. So let’s look at the primary groups because by being able to recognise them, you can learn how to deal with and control them - instead of the other way round.

How Painful Feeling Affect Us.

Imagine you’re having a relaxing soak in a hot bath. After a while, you’ve noticed the water temperature has dropped so you decide to top it up with some more hot water. You stretch your leg so you can turn the hot tap on with your toes. Hot water rushes out scalding your foot a little. You might squeal in pain a little, and you immediately pull your foot away from the water. This shows that we always try to move away from painful feelings.

One of the biggest and most commonly experienced painful feelings is anxiety. Anxiety can cause all sorts of negative feelings, and it can also be very non-specific. That means that you can be suffering with various anxiety symptoms, without really understanding exactly what is causing you to feel that way.
Anxiety can be very severe - and can certainly be strong enough to wake you from a deep sleep or cause an anxiety or panic attack. It is usually caused by an accumulation of many smaller fears and worries that combine together to create overwhelming emotional stress. In stronger cases, it can cause you to be uncertain and incapable of positive action. In most cases it also has a negative impact on your self esteem and reduces or even wipes out your self confidence.
The second group of feeling we call pleasure feelings.

These are my favourite feelings - and it’s probably the same for virtually every other human being on the planet. Imagine for a moment that you’ve just been out on a first date and really fell “head over heels” with your date. You seemed to have lots of things in common, there was never a dull or quite moment, and you got on like a house on fire. After the date, you feel on top of the world. These feelings and emotions cause us to feel pleasure, and we want to get as much of them as possible.

We are all programmed to seek out pleasurable experiences and situations, and to try to have more of them in our lives. This is why romance, holidays and even pleasure parks play such an important part in our lives. Pleasurable emotions and feelings that we can’t get enough of include happiness, joy, laughter, love, friendship, fulfilment, winning, being loved and inner peace.

Pleasurable experiences make us feel good, and we feel good on the outside, we feel good on the inside, and our self confidence and self esteem grow immensely. The trick is to control your emotions so that you always feel positive about the things that happen to you in every day life. When you’re in complete control over how you react and how you feel, your emotions will always be positive, and your self confidence and self esteem will soar.

Lorna Luck is a self confidence and personal development coach . Here she talks about how your feelings can help with building confidence levels. Get your personalised copy of her free program teaching how to build confidence at http://magic-hats.com