By Alan B. Densky, Ch
Self-Confidence is an emotional and psychological state that responds to our need for recognition and self-acceptance. It's among the oldest and most discussed concepts in psychology. It describes a positive but also adequate perception somebody has of himself or herself and of his or her abilities. As such, self-confident people generally have a better idea of the things they are able to do and are more likely to be successful in what they attempt. They are also more likely to accept and learn from their failures.
On the contrary, a lack of confidence might prevent you from believing what you do and decide will eventually work out the way you would have liked to. It can hence inhibit the buildup of decision-making skills, strategic and management abilities all of which are fundamental and sought-after things in the business world of today. The pre-occupation with other people's judgment of your work can also cause you to become extremely self-critical, which is something that can distract you from assignments you would otherwise be totally capable of performing.
Low self confidence will also affect your social life, as individuals with a low level of self confidence are more likely to stay in their "comfort zone" and fear the risk of rejection. This is called social phobia and is usually associated with low self confidence, but also other psychological conditions such as depression. People with low self confidence are scared of the judgment of others and will avoid talking to new people, which can result in isolation and even less self confidence. Low self confidence is a vicious cycle that's hard to break.
To the contrary, because they are able to trust their own abilities, self-confident people are able to do what they feel is appropriate and do not expect the approval of their peers. They also inspire confidence: your boss, employees, customers, friends or relatives are more likely to believe in you or in the things you are telling them when you appear self-confident.
Various experiences can lead to low self confidence. Recent research shows that parenting style has a critical effect on the development of the self confidence of children. Bodily and mental abuses during childhood are for instance the most damaging to somebody's self confidence, as well as divorce and family conflicts.
Overprotective parents can also be a reason for a child's social phobia and hamper the independence necessary to develop self confidence. Successes and failures, for instance at school or in one's professional life, also play an important role: failing a class or losing a job are among the various experiences that will have a negative impact your self confidence.
There are however ways to overcome those bad experiences and increase self confidence. The first thing to do in order to build self confidence would be to learn to know yourself and what your strengths are. Recognizing that you cannot be perfect and cannot be the best in everything you do will help you gain self confidence. Accepting yourself as you are is the key to building self confidence.
But improving self confidence also requires that you start taking risks and giving yourself credit for your accomplishments. This is very simple advice which will help you develop self confidence. You might also find many books which will claim they can help you gain self confidence, however many of them are not reliable.
A great number of people suffer from low self confidence or are only able to gain self confidence in one or a certain number of areas of their lives because they continually look for other people's approval and are afraid that they could fail.
Many factors, like childhood traumas, can explain why some people cannot have the wholesome life a self confident individual could have. Such individuals also do not always know how to gain self confidence. But improving self confidence can now readily and effectively be done with hypnosis and NLP.
As we have seen before low self confidence and social phobia can be triggered by traumas or unconscious fears that may be hard to overcome with self persuasion only. Confidence hypnosis and NLP on the contrary are able to reach the unconscious part of the mind and alter belief systems to boost self confidence. They are effective tools that will help you address your fears and believe in yourself to develop self confidence.
Self-Hypnosis for building self confidence has been used for several decades and has shown significant results in building self confidence. Once in a hypnotic state, reaching unconscious thoughts is a lot easier and, thanks to hypnotic suggestion, you will be able to replace your negative thought patterns with positive ones to gain self confidence.
Alan B. Densky, CH is an NGH certified hypnotherapist. He offers effective NLP CD's for self confidence and social phobias. His self hypnosis for self confidence CD's were independently reviewed in the UK. Visit his hypnotherapy web site and watch free hypnosis videos.
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