Resolution to Get More Confidence

By Nathalie Fiset

Most resolutions for the New Year revolve around losing weight, saving more, and finding true love. But for some people, their most important resolution is to gain more confidence. If you're on the same boat, here are some tips to finally help you break out of your shell.

Learn from Confident People

Confident people are easy to spot in a crowd. They tend to stand out, actually, because they're comfortable in their own skin. If you have friends or acquaintance that fit the bill, go ahead and ask them what makes them confident. Their stories are sure to inspire you to have more confidence in yourself.

Take Baby Steps

Some people tend to make extreme decisions when reaching a goal. Sometimes it works, most times it doesn't. But a safer approach to achieving your goal is to take things one baby step at a time. Do things progressively rather than jumping from point A to Z. If you need to shore up your confidence, don't just suddenly enter a contest for stand-up comedians and give yourself a sink-or-swim ultimatum. Start with something small like making new friends in a setting you feel utmost comfortable. When you've done that successfully, move to something marginally more challenging and so on.

Don't Stress Yourself

People suffering from lack of confidence often end up stressing themselves for the smallest of things. In the end, their stress makes them perform worse than they should. Has that happened to you? If you don't want to be your worst enemy, you need to learn how to relax. Keep the negative thoughts away. Stress won't do you any good so just relax. Whatever you're about to do, surely it isn't anything that can kill you, is it? If it's not then stop worrying! Que sera, sera! But if you know you've prepared for it and you've done your best then just relax and let things happen.

Look at the Bright Side

One sad truth of life is that it's easier to find something to criticize than something to praise. Be that as it may, you don't have to do it just because it's easier, do you? Learn how to focus on the good stuff instead of the bad. If you've done something good, give yourself a pat on the back. Yes, whatever you did might not have been executed as well as you wanted to, but nobody's perfect. There's a time to nitpick but that time hasn't arrived yet...not until you gain enough confidence to handle criticism properly.

Stop Comparing

There are good and bad times to compare and right now, it's definitely not good to compare yourself with other people. Making comparisons and participating in a little competition now and then is only healthy for people who are confident because they know how to value themselves. Furthermore, any disadvantage in their part is seen as a challenge instead of an indication to wallow in self-pity. There's a long way to go before you can start perceiving competition as a healthy challenge, but you'll get there. Believe in it!

Act like You're Confident Already

Stand up straight. You don't often see confident people slouching. Most, if not all of them, tend to stand and walk straight because they know who and what they are and they know what they want.

Smile. Confident people are mostly happy people because they tend to enjoy life since they're doing what they want. Ultimately, it's easier to gain confidence if you're happy.

It's not easy to act like you truly believe in yourself but you have to do it anyway. Soon, you'll get the hang of it and before you know it, you're already confident of your skills and abilities and other people are asking you for advice on how to gain self-esteem.

Like Yourself

Last but not the least, accept yourself for who you really are. This doesn't mean that you don't have to work on your negative attitudes such as being short-tempered or impatient. Rather, it means being comfortable with your looks, personality, and interests. If you genuinely love reading, don't be afraid that people would find your hobby boring. That's who you are and there's no harm in having fun with what you like to do!

Confidence is something that money can't really buy. It starts from within and nurtured by the outside world. Believing in yourself may be easier said than done but if you work hard enough on gaining self-esteem and you're supported by your loved ones then what you want is sure to happen sooner than later.

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